The Opinionated Baker

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What’s the worst that can happen?

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The best advice that I’ve ever been given came from an ex-boss. I was a bit younger then, and definitely a lot more immature. One day as I was sharing with her my doubts and fears, she asked me, “What’s the worst that can happen?”

Nobody learns how to ride a bike by being afraid of falling. Great things would never be accomplished if people were afraid of failing. I once knew a man who was shortlisted for a prestigious job and invited for an interview. He never showed up for the interview because he was afraid of being rejected. It sounds stupid put like that, but how many of us turn down opportunities because we’re afraid of failure? It is always easier to stay in your comfort zone and not venture out to pursue your dreams. Many rationalize this fear by deciding that their dreams are not worth the risk. ‘Why should I leave this cushy job? I only think that I will be happier there, what if I’m not? What if I fail? I end up with less than I have now…’

All great things come with their risks. Great businessmen never rose to where they are by being afraid to take that critical step. Sure there are failures and sure there is always a big possibility that you will fall. But really, what is the worst that can happen?

As long as you are physically able, it is not impossible to find a job. Sure, you might have to start from the bottom, cleaning the floors or washing dishes in a restaurant. But if you have the ability and the courage to persevere, you will climb the ladder.

There is a great difference between “confidence” and “arrogance”. “Arrogance”, is the belief that you are superior to others while “confidence” is the certainty that you are not inferior. I am not arrogant because I have an opinion and am not afraid to share it. Sure, I might be wrong or you might think differently… but that is totally fine. Arrogance repels others, but confidence draws them to you.

How many dreams have you dismissed because you were afraid of failure? How much have you given up because somebody told you that you “couldn’t”?

In this world, there are three types of people, the enablers, the neutrals and the disablers. The neutrals are the ones that do not care about you and you should not be bothered by their apathy. The disablers are the ones you should be worried about. They may not do this intentionally, but they will eat at you with their fears and insecurities. If you listen to them, they will chip away at your confidence with their words and their pessimistic doubt until you are left with as much fears and insecurities as them. This is not of course to say that you should ignore all who give you negative advice, but that you should be wary of how much of this advice is realistic and how much of it is born from insecurity and paranoia. Finally, there are the enablers. If you have an enabler in your life, then you are a very lucky person. These are the people who believe in you and support you in your decisions. They do not coddle you with sweet words, in fact, many will share with you the risks involved in your decision. The big difference is that they believe that you can achieve your dreams and once you are prepared to accept the risks, they will support you in your decision.

So stop being a wimp and start pursuing your dreams. So what if you fall? What’s the worst that can happen?

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Written by Musingsat

February 17, 2012 at 12:15 pm

Posted in Hawaii, Musings

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  1. Hey!! I use this all the time except I sort of had to discover it myself, and I basically state it in a different way – when I have to do something hard that may not be pleasing to others but is required to be done, or something as simple as speech I always tell myself “People aren’t going to kill you if you mess up, the worst is a little embarrassment for a couple minutes and its finished.” 😀 Especially with speeches, and if you notice even professional speakers mess up and nobody does anything people just stay silent as if nothing happened because people make mistakes!! so nothing to worry about ^^

    Matt Talebi

    July 18, 2012 at 11:09 pm


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